Conversations with others can sometimes leave us feeling empty and unfulfilled. We yearn for a deeper connection, but are unsure of what to do differently.

Deep listening is a way of listening that can make all the difference. It involves choosing consciously to listen closely, without an agenda and without judgment. We become really present to the other person and hear what they are truly saying, which goes beyond the words they use. We refrain from dwelling on what we want to say, and simply listen.

Choose To Be A Listener

Here is a four-step process that is easy to use and remember. Each word in the phrase "Choose To Be A Listener" is an effective reminder of the steps:

Choose: We make a conscious choice to be a deep listener before a particular situation with a particular person.

To Be: This reminds us to be present. We let go of everything in our minds except the present moment. While listening, if we find our minds wandering or thinking of a response, we remind ourselves again "to be" present.

A: This stands for "Accept." We accept everything the speaker is saying, without judgment. We let go of any preconceived ideas about the person and simply listen.

Listener: This reminds us to listen for meaning. We may find it helpful to focus on the tone of the words, or the body language, more than the words themselves.

Using this process, we will find that we leave a conversation with a feeling of satisfaction and connection, and with a much deeper understanding and appreciation of the other person. Deep listening may take effort at first, but it gets easier with practice!

Give me a call if your group or organization would like a fun, engaging, and hands-on presentation on deep listening.

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